The LORD has kept me from having children. Go sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.Genesis 16:1, NIV
Something I realized is this: Nowhere in the Bible does it say Abram kept mistresses, this to me means that Abram was faithful to Sarai and slept with someone else because she told him to.
Another thing I came to notice is that Sarai doesn’t tell this to Abram until after God takes him out of his father’s home and they wonder around while God keeps talking to Abram about his descendants. Abram is 70 years old at this point and Sarai is only a few years behind, what I m trying to get at is, Sarai could’ve thought to give Hagar to Abram years before, as she grew older and no sign of children. Why did the thought or desperation come after God’s promise?
Here’s what I think: When God promises us something, we expect it to come soon. We don’t expect to be kept waiting. As time goes on without any sign of the promise coming to fruition, we grow desperate – specially if that promise is something we desire with all our heart. It gets to a point where we forsake God and take matters into our own hands because our hearts are no longer aiming for God’s will but our will, just under the pretense that it’s God’s will since He said He’ll give us this, we’re just moving without waiting for His command.
That’s what I believe happened with Sarai. In addition to probably believing that Abram’s descendants might not actually come through her, after all, it had been 10 years already.
It seems to have been a common practice in that time period for a woman who was barren to use her servant as a surrogate mother and adopt the children as their own.
Sarai his wife took her Egyptian slave Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife.Genesis 16:3b, NIV
Hagar didn’t become a mistress of Abram, but his wife, second wife. This means no other man could have her, she and Abram were now one flesh.
As we know, Hagar conceived and during her pregnancy began to despise Sarai.
She later gives birth to a son and calls him Ishmael.
Do you think Sarai deserved to be despised by Hagar?
Or that Sarai is justified in her later mistreatment of Hagar, which caused the latter to run away?
Let me know your thoughts below!